A House Divided Cannot Stand

As a husband and father, I take my leadership role very seriously. I believe that I have the responsibility to lead our household, not as a dictator or an autocrat,  but by serving my family through love, understanding and compassion. It is not about my family serving me.  (No slippers at the door or an iced cold one while I kick back and wait for dinner to be prepared.) Sometimes it may mean that I make dinner or help out with some other task that isn't ordinarily mine.

My wife and I complement each other, each one helping where help is needed and working together for the good of each other and the whole family. For the sake of organization, we have mutually agreed that I should take the leadership of our home. This does not mean that my wife is subservient or that she does not have a leadership role. It just means that for any organization to function, there must be order, and that we each have different roles that enable us to best work together.

In today's society, it seems as though there is a lack of organization, communication, direction, and agreement in the home between husband and wife. This often leads to frustration and a lack of clarity and cohesion for entire families.  The world serves up many influences that can divide families, making it tremendously important for husband and wife to stand united with each other and with their children to take care of one another and support one another. In our family, it is our Christian faith that provides the solid foundation for our unity.

As a leader, I believe my role is to provide a vision for our family, and to support and serve my family. I am also charged with mentoring  my children and with loving each and every one in my family unconditionally.  It is not always easy, and it can be downright inconvenient and frustrating at times, but I believe it is all worth it.

Whether you have a single parent household or a two parent household, your leadership is desperately needed. The effect of your leadership will be felt in your neighborhood, your city, and beyond, possibly for years to come. The question is, will it have a positive or a negative effect?

I don't know about you, but I think household leadership is one of the most important forms of leadership in our society today, and it is being tested like never before.  Are you up to the test?

A house divided cannot stand (Mark 3:25).

Greatness in my Mother

When I hear people speak of greatness they often speak of some CEO, actor or athlete. I think of one person, my MOTHER. From troubled beginnings filled with frustration, abuse, and disappointment, she rose above the negativity and chose to break the chains of dependence and ignorance to pursue a different direction, following Christ. Here’s what makes my MOTHER GREAT!

• Instilled values - Love for God, she reminds us that there is no other way to life.

• Self Sacrifice - Putting her dreams aside, she lived to provide for us without thought of her own comfort and desires.

• Discipline - Holding us accountable for our behavior, tempered with Love

• Strength - No matter what negative situation came her way, she pushed through it knowing that it was not just about her.

• Choice - She could have chosen to live out her own dreams, worked full time, or placed us in child care her choice was to be a MOM.

• Caring & Nurturing - Through sickness and health, my mother consistently provided nurturing, not just to her children, but anyone needing her help.

• Serving - She has always demonstrated a servant’s heart. She has consistently served God by serving her children.

• Generosity - What’s hers is yours. Even if it’s her last.

• Inspiration - My mother has not only inspired and encouraged her children in all of their endeavors, but has been a tremendous support to countless others in need.

• Friendship - Not just a great mother, but a consistent and loving friend.

• Fun - Late nights at Jack N the Box, Creature Features movies and playing board games on her bed.

• All driven by Love - There is nothing she would not do for her family. Her life has always demonstrated her unconditional Love.

• Leaving a Legacy - Because of all of the above, she has produced four College graduates who overcame the negativity of an apparently hopeless neighborhood to have successful careers.

My mother has had a significant impact on my leadership development. Through her life I have found that if anyone wants to be great they must be willing to serve others.

What is GREATNESS? My Momma! Happy Mother's Day Mom